love yourself

                  As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.

                                                              – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

One of my friends told me how much she is forced to get slimmer every day. Even her parents somehow tried to convince her to skip classes and go for gymming or some other exercise. As their motive was to make her slim and according to them she was fat! well guys just to bring in your notice, her weight was just 69kgs and she looked beautiful!

I met a girl in a cosmetic store spending thousands on some foundation or concealer. Randomly I started a conversation with her. What I came to know was she was a college student and her grandmother has always been after her life about the complexion of her skin and so she spends thousands on various chemicals and products to get the ideal complexion. Well, guys! She had the whitish complexion and a graceful personality.

Both of the above girls were quite not happy with what they had, and that’s where I realized we all actually aren’t satisfied with our physique, our complexion, our voice and the list never ends. I see the men worried about their baldness, hairiness, short height or the length of their penis. This makes them think that they are not the perfect “man”. But does this really matter? Does a person have to be thin and white in complexion to achieve the highest respect in the society? Skinny people are making them sick by gorging on food to gain more and more weight; they want to buy clothes in which they look like they have a desirable weight. Slightly over weighted people are starving themselves to get the celebrity look. Do you really think that your starvation will make you happy when you will somehow fail to achieve that celebrity figure? Well! Yes, this is the bitter truth that if you will not do good to your body than you will not get good from that body. It’s like how you will treat yourself you will get for yourself. Whatever figure you have it’s just wonderful. Because the society has set up some parameters for the ideal women or men doesn’t mean that you have to accept those parameters. What you got to accept is just yourself. You need to accept the ways your body works, the ways your thoughts precipitate and the ways your emotions are flowing in that your free world! Yes, you have got so many useful things to function for and you are sitting on that couch and wondering that you are dark complexion the society will not accept you or which bra to invest in so that your boobs don’t look shabby! Your breasts need to breathe, don’t suffocate it with numbers of bra! Whatever the society thinks, just hell with it, have you accepted yourself? You need to accept yourself and love yourself.

Why are you trying so hard to fit in? when you were born to stand out?

                                                                                             –  Ian Wallace 

Have you ever wonder that why you hate your body so much? You are sitting there and reading this because of your great body, so respect it. Pamper it, like you pamper your loved ones? Start pampering your body. Sit down every week and write down those five things you love about yourself and those things can be anything. And just start admiring those five things. But before that here are some tips to help you out with these situations!

  1. Confidence: have a whole lot of confidence in yourself. This is the simplest word to use but a lot of us fail to apply this to our daily lives. You are beautiful. You don’t need any layers of makeup on your soft skin to look great. Your skin needs to breathe baby! Have confidence in yourself, you don’t need to think what people are saying because their opinions aren’t your priority. Buts your skin is.
  2. Mantras: well! For once and all just say it yourself. Promise an unconditional love to yourself. Because whatever is said to you, is said from you. And your life really needs some great mantras to function in various situations.
  3. Happiness: just stick to things which make you go happy, do things where your happiness stays and you will end up loving yourself.
  4. Gratitude: express some gratitude to yourself. Whatever you have achieved was not easy. We all set some sort of goals for ourselves like if I’ll not have alcohol for a week I’ll treat myself to a large smoothie on a weekend. Be thankful for even achieving the smallest goals of your cycles.
  5. Eat healthily: I am not asking you to starve yourself. There is a major difference between the two. Starving, makes your body suffer and don’t let your body suffer. Instead, try eating healthy daily. Quit the junk from your diet and consume as much nutrition you can.
  6. Exercise: again, don’t let yourself pushing for it. Do the amount of exercise in which you are comfortable, which you love doing it. You don’t need to forcibly crash yourself in the gym because to want to touch some ideal weight. No! You don’t have too!
  7. Take care: you need to look after yourself; it’s the most essential thing. If you want to get your things done than worship your body. Do not harm yourself with the medicines which are claiming to make your boobs enlarge or your penis will grow. Nothing much is happening!
  8. Stay light: everything has two sides the darker side and the lighter side; you need to just focus on the brighter side as whatever the amount of positive energy you have got, no one will dare to challenge that energy of yours.

 

So, guys, these were the 8 tips to get you emit some positive vibe in this world full of judgments and stupid ideal body image. After practicing such things whatever you are left is your ideal and desired body which belongs to you happily. And don’t forget to share your story in the comment section down below. Because we all have got that one story to share!

 

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12 things to do in 2018

Hey, peeps! Well, we all are starting with New Year and a lot of us has made a lot many resolutions too. Well, do you think to make so many resolutions will help you to follow them up?  Do we really practice them daily? No! If you ask me then I don’t! Making resolutions and sticking to them for a day and two and sometimes even for a week is much of a thing. You really need to struggle a lot to keep up! But I am here with a new motive this year. And it is to stick to my resolution until the 31st day of December this year. Well, I thought a lot, that how am I going to do this and I ended up with this simple thing. Just replace the word ‘resolution’ with ‘plan’. We all are fond of planning and plotting, we can waste our hours in just planning, like remember how you planned that solo trip to some mountain and you end up not going there and you credited so many hours to that planning. Secondly, you need to bribe yourself to accomplish those plans, in simple words, start motivating yourself. Light up your life little bit, if you went on that solo trip and accomplished it then treat yourself with some spa or some other token. And peeps if you are still unable to stick to your goals than start figuring out the loopholes in them see where you are going wrong and start focusing on those activities to make it possible.

Now the question arises is what kind of New Year plans one should work on. It’s really hard to make that to-do list for the whole complete year. And sometimes you may worry what if you are going to miss out something.

So here I come to help you out with that long and most time-consuming list!

  1. Put on your creative shoes

You need to explore your creativity. There are many creative pockets which are zipped up, you have to unzip them and start working on them. Each one of us has some sort of hobby to work upon. Start exploring your hobbies. Learn a new hobby each month, exploring your hobby will make you more focused on your new skill and as it will be of your interest so you will look forward in exploring a new hobby each month and it will motivate you to practice it daily too. You now pull up your creative socks and start working on it. Your plan is to learn something new and fruitful this 2018.

  1. Incorporate a new habit

There are 12 months in a year and you are fully aware that you are not at all perfect. And there is no limit to working for perfection; you never know when you can achieve it! Adopt a new habit every month. Did it ring a bell that you will get to know 12 whole new things in this 2018! Starting from having those slow mornings to getting to bed after reading 10 pages, well it will all make senses to you when you’ll start practicing it. Sticking to new habits it’s the toughest task and here comes the solution to it:

  • Get a bullet journal to get organized.
  • Create vision boards.
  • Give a token of appreciation to yourself.
  • Write down
  1. Put that experience box at priority

Yes! That experience box, we all should be open to new experiences in our daily lives. You have to prioritize your list. Every experience counts and so you should give a try to everything. The more you experience the more you dive into the sea of exploration. Become open to new ideas, expand your horizons. You must be wondering how you can?

  • Volunteer; you can volunteer at various places and such volunteering will give you a lot of other experience which are worth lifetime. And the world needs a lot of helping hands out there.
  • Something that scares you; we all fear from many things in our life. Make a list of them and let’s work on them and let’s get rid of those fears. A fearful life is never worth living.
  1. Control finance

You should have a hold on your money. Use it wisely. Your cupboard doesn’t need everything and everything expensive is not best for you. You can work on your finance and save that money for something worthy and something that will give lifetime nourishment. You already have that plenty of stuff which you don’t need and getting rid of it will make you add value to your lifestyle. And the minimalist you go the happier you will be. How you can save:

  • Declutter; get rid of the things you don’t need. Starts practicing donating your stuff to the people who are in need and trust me this will make you feel good and refreshing at the same time. And it will take a little of your time. Give 15mins a week and declutter your life.
  • Budgeting; note down your daily expenses and monitor them. Gradually you will end up noticing the loopholes of where you are draining your money unnecessarily.
  1. Invest in yourself

You are living a beautiful life and this life is worth your attention. You are learning new skills, you will be focusing on your hobbies and you will gradually develop new habits too. Let’s start this basic activity also this year. Let’s start valuing your life.

  • Dress up; those clothes in your wardrobe will look better on you too. Style them, wear them and make yourself look good, make yourself go presentable.
  • Write a letter to yourself; even you need some gratitude in your life. Write a love letter to yourself and show some gratitude to yourself. This will make you feel good and motivating.
  • Practice yoga; I’ll not mention this for your flexibility. But I am mentioning this for your concentration and for your peace of mind. What is important is your peace of mind and you have t stay focus on it. It’s important buddy!
  • Practice mindfulness; as I mentioned above, you have a beautiful life. And now that life requires all your attention. This year just stay in the present moment. Block all the distracting agents and all the things which are making you unable to concentrate. Stay in the moment!
  1. Reach out to someone you admire

I caught your back! I have a lot of people whom I admire a lot, whether you talk about a person who is doing college and working parallel or you talk about the person who is doing 8hrs of college and then excelling his interests and then acquiring a new skill, I admire them. I can reach out to them and tell them this loud and clear. So buddy! Reach out to those people and tell them they are great, maybe you end up making their day.

  1. Learn new skill

You have a short life and long list to accomplish. Learn and learn more. You can acquire a new skill every month. And this will control your mood swings too. Hey girls! This will make you happy. Try this out.

  1. Get into nature

On every birthday, I use to plant a small sapling. I loved this habit of mine. Even you can try out this. It’s a great help to the nature and your nurturance will make you grow more productively in this environment. Get your heads out from that Netflix and look around how much wonderful does this planet looks, this nature also needs your attention.

  1. Create a workplace

Sometimes it’s frustrating to work in that clumsy and untidy area. You have got so much distraction there. Your workplace needs a tidy and clean setup, so that you can focus and concentrate. Clean the mess and get started!

  1. Diet

Eat healthily! Let’s make this 2018 a healthy year, let’s dump the junk and start with those healthy dietary habits. Providing proper diet to your body not only makes you healthy but efficient and effective too. You will more boost up and energetic to your work schedule.

  1. Write

Write down those ideas or your imaginary stories on a paper. When you give words to your imagination you will come to conclude whether it requires your attention and time or not? Penning your words down helps a person in many ways from clearing your minds mess to increasing your concentrations, it helps in all. So this 2018 start writing your imaginative cookery tales.

  1. Travel

Last! But certainly a priority. Travel as much as you can. You have to take every possible trip you can, whether it’s a solo trip or a group one. You need to pack your bag and travel. Travelling helps a person find many things in life. It’s a great treasure to know oneself. When you travel, you become aware of lot many things happening to your life. You explore every inch of yourself. So travel and travel a lot.

 

These were the twelve things you can plan for your 2018 and make it a success. Remember it’s just a plan to initiate in our life and we can make it happen. New year resolutions aren’t that tough, they are so that we can differentiate from our today self to tomorrow self. These were the few I have listed. Let me know your new resolutions or the new year plans in the comment section! Happy 2018 peeps!

~A🖤~

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Attire or sexuality?

           ​I peered with the firm look of disgrace

My mind filled with confusion and theirs with lust

It’s strange how a few seconds can lead you in a whole new direction

 

 

I remember an incident, when I was walking down to home in my town, there were many eyes scanning my every move, it made me so uncomfortable that I had to take a rickshaw, so that I can reach home as soon as possible. The rickshaw puller was explaining me those eyes, that each of them has a daughter, a sister, and a mother at home, but they will never look at them, they are only concerned about the confident society running around them, somehow I started talking to him and he explained a lot, while handling him the amount of the ride, he did pressed my hand…

And so was the incident happened today

A local bus, with lots of passengers in it, I see men giving a lusty glance, almost drank all my confidence.  It made me alert after a while but the starting seconds’ were the deadly ones. They were three of them and on our next stop the fourth one joined them. He checked me out and my friend completely, I did look back into his eyes I can sense the burning flicker in me and so I made him also see that, but that wasn’t sufficient for him. His lusty eyes stayed glued to my friend, she became uncomfortable. Suddenly one of his companion tells him that he is wearing a torn pant and they started laughing about it, I can sense the shame in his eyes, but his lusty looks were on priority in that journey so he kinda made himself comfortable with that mockery. Next to me (on right) was sitting a 5yr old girl, and on left the other three pair of lusty eyes. They discussed a lot about a girl’s sexuality and how every curve compliments her to them. For seconds I did wonder about the facts even I wasn’t aware of them. They tried their every move by shifting, by randomly touching, by talking loudly. My friend did ask them, “is there any issue with you all?” for them it seemed to be the success; they smiled to us and then laughed aloud among themselves.  A girl next to us yawned and they passed the comment of taking their dick into her mouth. And that is how every girl in that local was made uncomfortable, either by discussing the size of her bra or by visualizing a make out with her.

None of the girl uttered a word, the 5year old didn’t even know that she was sitting on a strangers lap and her mother almost lost in her son. The rest three in that local somehow managed to keep up with their confidence and their self respect.

Those were just uncomfortable 20 minutes and that was with every woman in that local, and this is what they practice every day. It’s just not the attire or the beauty of the woman that attracts them. It’s the boobs and the vagina that attracts them.

First I thought of just mentioning the incidents and letting you all wonder and raise your opinions about it, this is something which everyone of us face or come across but in our busy schedule or our careless world, we never wondered. Our imagination got stuck in the attire of girls and bravery of boys men.

Have you ever wondered the vice a versa? The attire he wears in his eyes, and the bravery she holds in her vagina

 

He wondered about the wetness

Of her vagina

She thought

The wetness of her eyes…

 

Like a lullaby

                  

                     Her sharp edges were all

             I needed to make a dull life scarred with my best                                            mistakes.

She rolled of my

Tongue and

Into my bed; she was my favorite word

To say

 

They found each other in this crazy and messed up and fucking beautiful world because they seemed to belong together, but that wasn’t the situation as they shared different equations and the best they survived was when they were apart from each other, living their life till the fullest, experiencing till the fullest and moreover trying to getting apart. They became the fire for each other when they were together and that is how they warmed their soul to. They just need each other after a passage of time, discovering different life, exploring different lives and still wanted to stay in pleasure. They were complex people and they just wanted to weave a silent love. This was a humble story, which was might be witnessed by thousands soul, maybe more. But somehow it became her story, but not his…

She wanted it to remember:

The softness of his touch, his cheeks upon mine that fearlessness I have grown to crave more, that pleasure I get in his voice, his thoughts, his wavelength, was just making my day. Still I always wanted myself to grow apart from him. He was never sure in his life and what he assured me was never to hurt me, I became a part of his life and he became my life. He always reminded me of his girlfriends, he would talk about seven girlfriends, and I would pluck my soul seven times to his ocean, slowly I became a lonely island surrounded by ocean. Someday he would declare me the dust that is how he fantasies me! But I want to stay in his life, because I know he is a crybaby who will come after each of his breakup or who would ask to go for shopping for each of his girlfriend. The pleasure I will get at that time will be beyond my happiness. Because I know at that time too, a fire which we did light will be smoldering. Looking in the wells of his eyes will make my world again rightfully wonderful. I wanted him to be happy, and was trying to get myself a life as he wishes for me…

 

Why did they apart?

 

He: I love you

She: I love you too

He: but we can’t be together

She: why?

He: because the day I will leave, your world will fall apart.

She: I forgot to tell you…

He: what?

She: I hate you.

He: can we kiss?

She: just blow off the dust, before you kiss.

 

Press yourself against my lips

Like a lullaby

Seeking sweetness

 

like a firefly

​I wonder why?

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Why this human race gets so possessive about certain people that on one side they just want to achieve them, or the better word would be ‘rule’. They want to rule the person completely, deeply and passionately!

And with these three words they term the equation as ‘love’. And then, when that person leaves, they become the encyclopedia of depression! It’s just so that simple!

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You tend to fall for that person, you had the best time with your man, and when your thoughts started differ, it becomes the time to depart! It’s just so simple again! 

Few months ago you heard the tales, how sweet the guy is! And now you will be tuning how worst the guys can be…And then the feelings shifts from expressing love to expressing abuses moreover curses! .

And again the struggle to find happiness begins…By enquiring the basic question: will I ever find happiness in my life?

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When you know the simplest concept: nothing stays forever, then why you want permanent things in life!?

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I wonder…

I just wonder…

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You want a rainbow, when you are confined in blacks…

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You want happiness, when you are cursing…

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You want love, when you are stubborn…

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You want rough, when you are sensitive…

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You want truth, when you are a lie…

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You want, it’s just what you want…

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You are a waterfall, who wants to become a firefly…

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#deppression #makinglove

#makinglustfaces

#writinglife #lovecurses #dramaticlove #wanderinglove #wonder #scribbledstories #desires

I’ll take you on date

​”I m not a flower

You are going to pick

I m the tree

You can sit

And read.”
He always asks how it will be dating you? What if I chose you as a partner? Are you capable of it? 

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In short do I deserve him?

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Yes! Most of the time, you do face such questions, questions being asked by random people dancing in your world.

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But I have some basic set of wheels…

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I’ll take you on a date: in forests

I’ll make you eat: silence

I’ll talk a lot about: you

I’ll discuss about: your weaknesses

I’ll want you to: cry

I’ll want you to gift me: some space

We’ll travel and explore: some peace

We’ll dance on the rhythm: of thrills

We’ll tell tales of each other: deaths

We’ll fall asleep under the: stars

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And when your journey with me will end, i will make you understand why you didn’t have to chose a flower.
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Do you deserve me?

“It is never easy developing thick skin,

But it can be claustrophobic living inside it”

#wordsofexpression #wordsoflove #wanderinglust #wanderingviolet #wanderinglove 


Like a butterfly?

His thoughts were painting her future with lots of rainbows rising at the same time. This rainbow was bright and magnetic in color as it was being painted on the dark surface. Like the magnetic and electric attraction of two souls? The thought of making a wonderful painting was pleasurable. Even a single glance or the name of that painter would flutter her…umm just like the butterfly? She wanted to fly. To fly to each and every flower of that grassland and there was one more secret abated. Honestly, she just wanted to collect colors of each flower, the fragrance of each flower, she wanted to flutter, she wanted to fly, she wanted to tell about her rainbow to all. She believed in the painter, she trusted him about the future paint, whole of her was just in a desperate need of that painter. The painter arrives in her life, she was all ready with her black sheets, she wanted those black sheets to look wonderful once again. And the life of a butterfly and rainbow became her dream. As the painter considered those white sheets, the sheets which get easily ruined… like the sheets of the lover’s bed, like the words which are better of dead. As he told her, he shared those sheets with weeds. And so all of a sudden her life becomes black…the color of those sheets? She just dreamt of those butterfly and rainbow, forgetting her actual presence…she was a wild flower, which wanted to grow in every circumstance. And so she was not the lucky butterfly but she was just the fortunate wanderingviolet!

And so she losses the painter she loved… 

~A❤~

#word of the day#life#wanderingviolet